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Ship of Theseus

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I visited a friend this week. A solid conservative, yet a good, decent, thoughtful person. I had a gift for him - a lamp which I'd seen that screamed out to belong to him. He lives about 2h15m from me. A doctor's appointment took me to his area. The last time he saw me, I was a guy. I was apprehensive. It went to well. He brought me into his house. We sat and talked. Old-timer stuff. He said, Hey you look different. Then, just to speak of the elephant in the room. Well, I am different. I laid it out, big picture: the HRT, the changing, telling my family, telling my boss. We talked. He said, I wish you every happiness, and he meant it. That really meant a lot to me. A good friend, a solid person, a decent human. I'm not surprised. I was relieved.

My Browser Keeps Me Honest

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Every time I open my browser, it asks: who are you? Who are you today? It offers me a choice between my firstName, which is soon to be my deadName, and my nextName. Of all the stupid routines my computer and software gives me, this one is not tedioous. I feel like it keeps me honest.

Goldfish Don't See the Bowl

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I have for about the last 25 years (I am old!) found some explanation in a phrase of my own: Goldfish Don't See the Bowl. What I mean by that is: Most of use do not see the systems we are embedded in: economic, civil, legal, religious, class, even (gasp!) gender . I was so pleased to learn about a speech given by D.F. Wallace, in which he posits: What is water to a fish? His speech is packaged in a book, and the Amazon people have remarkably brought it to my stoop today. I look forward to reading it. I would like to assert: I see the bowl I was put in. I'm actively changing my bowl.

Nothing Arrests Me like my Own Fears

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I was told, when I was young, that nothing offends a person as much as something they believe themselves. Boy (which is probably a term I should stop using) does this image below grab a hold of me. It brings up all my fears: being ridiculous, being seen as a threat, being seen as a pervert.

Nice Transgender Femme website

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Video killed the radio star. Social media killed the blogger. Maybe blogs are coming back? New cool website for Hannah McKnight, a cool transgender T-Girl (her term). I've seen Hannah on twitter and I'm pleased to see her new website.

Torrid for the win!

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At this point in my transition, 3 years HRT, 66 years old, my clothing is almost exclusively from thrift stores. It's relatively pain-free. If I buy something it's only a few dollars, if it doesn't fit I donate it to Marsha's Closet , my nearest local trans support group. In general: women's sizes are strange and I don't know why we/they put up with it. I found an unexpected source of great clothes for big people (6f1, 230 pounds) at Torrid clothing in Morgantown WV . Very helpful staff. Very trans friendly. An excellent shopping experience. Just wow. It's the way clothing shopping should be.

Lee Shevek: A Zine, A Woman Can Be Any Gender He Wants To Be

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Ordered a zine from Lee Shevek here , I think it's going to be pretty interesting. Front page art here:

Iggy Pop, my friends

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Progesterone and Kamala Harris' Mother

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< Wikipedia says it's true , so it must be.